Move away from people who often give you negativity in life and career.
They are nothing but a group of people who love to see someone drop to the world of shit, suffering and admit that they are right and wise. That way will make them happier.
Even though some of them are your family or close friend, always maintain yourself to stand firm because no one should violate your mind.
Negativity creates a mess
It is sad and disappointing when you realised that your family member often gives you negative element.
The worst is when the parent did not encourage their children well enough.
When kids are doing badly in sport or education, as a parent point of view, it is important to encourage them rather than passing them remarks like:
“I knew you cannot do it.”
“Why try so hard to suffer?”
“You shouldn’t be spending too much on gaming or watching TV!”
“You are simply useless!”
“You are totally wasting my time and energy to get you study well”
“You are making my money gone down to drain!”
How many of you as a parent said that before? There can be worst, of course.
Do you think by pouring such kind of sentences to kids are healthy for them?
You should be glad that if you child is strong minded and will not think of any other thing.
Let this shall not be another case where the child thought of ending their lives.
Instead, you as a kid, should try and find someone to talk with.
Any problem can be solved.
Choosing the shortcut is not the way to answer it.
Please remember, while you get away from this, what about the parents? And the parents, it is very important for you to take a second look at your kids. No one should come under that kind of stress.
Stop the negativity and encourage
That is how bad the negativity will cause if all of the people here does not know when to stop it!
It only makes everyone tired because it is not relevant at all.
Why does some people success?
It is all because they are very focus, having a strong will and also, having a group of family and friend who keep on encouraging each other.
Encouraging is very important.
Without that, it is as good as an egg without any yolk in it. Meaningless, right?
Encourage your family and friend instead of pouring cold water or negativity to others.
Rather have more support than having people walk away from you.
This is your choice, pick it yourself.
No one wants to live unhappily.
No one will bother how much you have hatred on the party.
They will not know why you have hatred, but all I can say is you are just wasting your time and effort whom the other party have no time for you.
Get up with positive attitude and share with all the others!
So what if you have vast experience.
People will still look at you as if you do not have the ability and like to talk you down like you just started out the day before.
Not showing out does not mean you are stupid or totally inexperienced.
It meant that you are absorbing everything you see, feel and touch of what had just happened before.
Just little by little will form a huge mountain.
No one will know how much experience you had before if you do not want to show.
There is no wrong doing that because you are just simply cannot bother who wanted to stand above you.
While people may think they are trying to teach you with a valid reason, but they have no idea that they are talking down to you.
It makes you like a pure fool person who does not know what is going on.
It is hurting, definitely. And it is highly irritating and restless!
Why do people love to do that?
It is not because they want to teach or think you require a lot of training. It is just that they want to be on top of the world.
Showing that they are the person others should approach to them.
They are the type who want to be a leader.
Do you feel like having a head on with this people?
It totally wastes your damn time fixing those when you know you can deal with more important things.
You do not gain anything from that at all. It only causes you more emotionally stress and tired out of everything because it always begins a conversation and then into a big argument,
NO one is right or wrong.
It is just the individual character that reacts this way.
It is important to work the way you think is right.
While advises are good to listen, it does not means you must follow them, even though it may cause some problem in future.
It is not that you do not care.
It only means you are standing firm on your belief.
Do not try to betray yourself just to follow suit because not everyone hand is strong enough to hold when you drop down.
For past few days, I had been thinking whether I should continue this blog.
And I made up my mind.
The answer is yes.
I would like to transform the way this blog is going to be.
It will be more of me instead of acting out as if I am one of those motivator speakers. Sorry, I am not, even though I wish I can.
It is hard to become one when you cannot act like one.
I am not going to do and I want to be as natural as possible.
NO, I am not saying I am not fit to be one, but prefer a person who wants to be your friend instead.
I would like to share something in our life, karma, and return of merits.
This is not going to be a religious topic (though I might share a bit here and there), but it will be more personal touch.
I love listen to people, sharing their life story. If there is something I can do to help, I would love to – but within my own means.
So, there it is.
Check me out often and it will be great!
Have a good day ahead.
Hey! Do you know something had been trying to whisper in your ear but you simply ignore it unknowingly!
It is hard to hear this little voice because of its low volume. We live day by day and we did not know the existence until we sit down and think with deep thought.
This tiny little voice is trying to tell you to go for your passion and do not throw it away!
Aren’t we ashamed of ourselves when we are too busy earning money and working hard that we neglect our passion?
Happiness gets you moving
To me, passion is happiness.
It is the passion that gets us moving forward.
We wanted to do something that we love. If we are able to achieve it, we will be on cloud nine, and that is the sort of happiness I hope everyone will have. It will keep your stress free.
If you wanted to learn piano, go for it despite how old you are! You got to keep on practising playing it if you want to be good!
Of course, don’t expect yourself to play like a real professional pianist because of our finger flexibility.
I have a great interest in piano so I decided to learn it by myself and started step by step. I am not musically trained, but because I have passion towards music production, I eventually studied audio engineering course and self-taught on producing dance music!
Passion grow from our heart and mind. It is good if you started since young. When we grow older, we would want to pursue something we been missing out. It is not because we do not want it anymore, it is just that we are parking there for a time being until it is time to release the handbrake!
I attended the passion test with a group of people before.
The test is straight forward and fun because we get to ask each other question after writing 15 things we wanted to do/ be in future. It is like setting what is your goal.
From the 15 lists, we will pick 2 of it and ask the partner to choose which one they prefer. Imagine you are torn by the 2 lists you wanted to do? You MUST give up one of them. From the final 5 you chose, you have to rank it which are the most priority.
And that will be your answer you wanted the most.
Is passion very strong?
Of course! If you do not have it, you will find it very hard to do well in future! Passion get you going and no matter how tough it is, you will be able to overcome it!
Passion get you going and no matter how tough it is, you will be able to overcome it! Because of the love towards the thing you like, you will feel contented if it is been solved or completed.
It is important you have your own passion, so do not let anyone thrash it down because they think differently from you. Always have positive peers to receive better energy!
Start today, find out what is your passion!
Have you been in the situation that you are the pressure cooker that wanted to release the steam?
The pressure stress is so huge that it can explode anytime of the day. Was it right to release it?
In my previous post, I had mentioned about the negativity and it is hard to hold on your positivity even when things are not getting your way.
I am embarrassed. I had recently blown my top due to some pressured I am facing.
Instead of putting on my smile, I frowned the entire day because I needed to be alone and rethink what is it going on wrong with my method. I am psychology burned, it is so hard to breathe properly because my mind is filled with anger that I felt giddy! Was it high blood?
When something isn’t going on right, I burst my mood and started scolding people. I was shocked at my reaction.
Should that even happen that way?
Of course not. If I am clear minded, strong with my mind, I should not be behaving this way. Because I am self-blaming.
If I am clear minded, strong with my mind, I should not be behaving this way. This is all because I am self-blaming for all the wrong things and pressure I am facing right now.
It is almost brain-dead.
Knowing that it is my own fault, why would other people share my sorrow? No one will never know that feeling ever as I had mentioned before. So it is important that we stand up and try it again despite many failures.
It does not hurt you if you intend to scold people again. It only hurt when you started pushing the blame to other people where you are denying the fact you are actually in the wrong! This is so shameful.
Instead of having a good day together, I had created a bad and gloomy day. Does everyone feel fine and act as if nothing happened?
All I want to say is : “Do you think they care?”
I picked up a book and start reading and the same old thing is reflecting at me again. Anger and pressure cooker.
I do not want to follow that route. I just want to be a happy person who is worry free even though it can be tough.
Only positivity will attract good energy, and that means luck as well.
Being a person who always frown, angry, jealous and blaming, I think luck will take a U-turn when they see your negativity energy face.
Letting go everything
Just like I had said regarding the pressure cooker. I literally let go everything, and it is wrong to do that. So how can we remain calm in that situation? Unless you are the deity , who can let go everything in your mind.
We can’t be emotionless because we are a human being who are filled with affection and emotion. We response to happy and sadness that happen around us.
We feel sorrow if someone we knew met a mishap or serious stuff that had happened in this world.
But we have to learn to let go and move forward.
Whatever had been broken cannot be fix, all we can do is to ensure that the crack will not go further. We must give a helping hand to one another who needed each other.
Start by listening to music and do something you like and pre-warn others that you are not in the mood.
Go do something that you like – playing games , watching TV or reading a book.
Just be alone.
People who know your style should shun away or console if something is not right. If not, get prepared to get triggered by the negative bomb.
Your family is innocent, so try to endure the anger if possible even though it is comfortable if you let go everything. Something will happen later on if you disregard this piece of advice.
Always find a listening ear who can talk to you. It can be your email pal, friend or some forum that may help you a lot if you are meeting some cross road. A geniune positive help is always beneficial for both parties because they can learn from each other either way! It look good if it is from different country because that’s the challenge! Always dare to accept it!
Of course, I am more than happy to listen to you if you needed to.
It is so tough. I do not think I can do it. Besides, how about I give up now? I do not wish to spend my time further when I have no idea what is the outcome going to be.
Here we go again.
We are surrounded by people who are a lack of confidence and decided to give up now because they are afraid that they will get hurt more.
But they do not know that good things are waiting for them if they hang on longer.
It is tired and in pain, really.
I know that very well because I am one of them too before.
When you meet a crossroad, all you have to do is to sit down and think which route will be better.
Lay everything out in front of you and do your own analysis.
Even if it failed, at least tell yourself that you had tried it before. Live with no regrets. There is nothing to feel sore when you have no confidence at all.
Lack of confidence feel like a loser
No one is born to be a loser, only if you do not try it and give up easily.
Don’t worry, you are not alone. There are a lot of people who are in the same category as you as well.
But you have to understand that nobody is going to care or bother how bad shape you are in. Even if you doing self-pity will not help. Friends will shun away immediately because you are producing negativity energy.
Ask yourself, approach or walk away if your friend is so depressing? If you have a big heart, you will sit down and talk it out with your friend and help within your own means.
Remember this, there is always someone around helping when you are feeling really down. Hence the reason we have social volunteers helping one another.
Nothing is impossible.
Every possibility lies on our hand. Whether you want to make or do it rely on you.
No one can force you doing something you hate. It is your own choice to choose.
You cannot blame someone blindly when you choose wrongly. It acts as if you are not at fault.
Accepting suggestion is a good start
Learn to take suggestion light hearted because not all of them are suitable for you because everyone mentality is different.
One apple cannot fit in all type of container. Do not force it in as it will result in the apple to be crushed, this is how your confidence level drop as if you are jumping out of the plane.
Everyone meant well, want you to be brave and stand firm. If you cannot listen to it, walk away and cool down yourself.
End of the day, you still have to face it and deal with it. Running will never solve the problem, it will only accumulate more trouble.
Once you had walked out of that dark shadow. Nothing will get into your mind, especially the negative energy.
Slap it away, pal! That energy should disperse into thin air and never come back to you.
Learn to smile every day and to everyone.
It is important people see you happily.
Have fun and a good ay!
Are you one of those who love to day dream that you want to own a lot of things? It can range from the smallest item from a box of colorful pencils to the high range value like owning an exotic cars or luxury home?
Fret not, you are not alone. In fact, there are people who have this thinking before and they are not ashame to share.
When you have this thought in your mind, do you feel the happiness in your mind that you feel like you are on top of the world?
Live and act like one even though you may not own them. It is not a crime to think that way. Call me silly if it please you. So long as I feel happy in my mind, why not? But can I make it into my personal gain?
If you really want to own either of those, you know what you have to do. Work hard, and extra harder than anyone else. But do not neglect your health and make those happiness into saddness feeling because you asked for it.
All of us have a dream and we constantly fighting for it.
We must not feel envy or jealous because we have no time for that. Either you carry on being happy in dream or you go for it. These are the two choices you can take. Unless you want to be grougy every day. How sad!
The more we think of it, the happier we are.
Hence I call it the magic numbers.
Magic numbers always appear in our mind and we are surrounded by them always. Remember what I had said, owning a lot of things.
The more money I have, the more items I can buy. Money is number in currency.
More plugins I have in my music software, I can do wonders. Plugins are number in quantities.
More trades I invested, more money I have in my account. Trading quantities are number in account.
More blog I write, I can attract more traffics. Blog traffics are number in visitors.
You see, we cannot escape the numbers.
In sport, the lesser timing you get, the faster you are. It is also numbers.
Monk live simplicity and they love to help. But they also cannot escape the fact that the more people they help, the greater the number it is going to be.
Numbers can be weighted as in value.
The value can be monetary or merits. So long as you are happy doing it without causing any harms, I am sure that everyone will be contented in their life.
Right now, my direction is to weight my number in merits by helping more people within my means. In personal gain, I would like to push my number by producing more musics and my photo audio video.
I would like to transform it from dreaming to reality. I am sure you will do it too!
The dream for us
Tony (fictional character) work very hard to get to where he is now. He is living in a luxury home, driving the latest fancy car which a lot of people are so envied (jealous) of. But he does not put on the air to show that he is some rich jerk.
That is like a dream for us and all we can do is to complain and comment about his lifestyle.
There are people who hope he will fail and go back to his toughest day because they felt unbalanced.
We have friends who worked very hard as well. Though they are not a boss of their own, but they are in the higher management drawing the good sum of money every month.
Again, there are people who also hope that they will fail.
There are too many narrow-minded people who wanted success people to fail. It seems like they are not allowed to be where they are and only they can be succeeded. It seems like “what comes around, goes around”. It is a cycle that cannot be a break.
Putting effort to hold
It is easy to cycle down the slope than to cycle up to the top you wanted.
Every energy, strength and sweats you put in, allow you to get nearer the goal. The satisfaction is so hard to describe because you will be jumping with joy.
It is not easy to cycle up the slope easily. So long as you keep fighting on and push your every single step, you will get there in no time. (It does not matter if you are taking your own sweet time)
So long as you keep fighting on and push your every single step, you will get there in no time.
It is important not to give up.
When you are at the peak of business or fame, remember to listen to advises and don’t act like a hooligan and do whatever you think it is fine. There are too many pictures to see in a big frame.
There are series of concern to take care of as not to form a chain reaction that might pull down what you had just built through your hard work.
But, who will be the people in fame when they are not in business?
E.g. Youtuber, artists, producer, singer, blogger, photographer etc… There are so many of them that you can ever imagine. Every job has its own fame.
Hold up your reputation so that you can earn the respect from fellow fans.
I had seen people raising to the top and got hurt badly while cycling down the slope too fast because they are over confident about where they are now.
They have forgotten how they went through and treat others like garbage as if they are at the top of the world putting on airs. In no time, you will lose a lot of respect and you be falling down quickly until no one will bother about you anymore.
If you want to be like Tony, it is important to stay humble so that you will reduce the number of haters. There is no way to prevent people saying you, or wanted you to go down to dirt. But there are ways to allow people to like you instead.
Everyone wants to succeed in life.
One must learn to help one another.
Stay positive, focus and humble.
When my mobile data burst, it had brought me back to the past when there is no data on our phone, not even GPRS (General Packet Radio Service). All we had is just a pager, during that time we were crazy over numeric forming as letters to alphanumeric and to voicemail messages.
There isn’t a time or way where we can get the latest news on mobile, let alone the hype on Pokemon Go now.
Since I am unable to switch on my data due to my own negligence by watching YouTube using my mobile internet rather than WiFi while at home, I have to limit myself and save for the remaining of 200mb for the emergency usage. I have 2 weeks left for the new month to start for my data plan to revert back to 3Gb usage.
Without the internet on mobile, do I feel lost and insecure because I simply cannot get the latest updates from social media, news and etc.
I move around freely with my head looking straight rather than tilting down like I am one of those walking dead. *chuckles*
It allows me to look at my surrounding clearer than before because my focus is not on the phone most of the time.
Was it a good thing?
Don’t you think it is good to be disconnected from the internet once a while? Let’s not talk about the period when you are working or doing something serious till we forgotten to check the phone.
What I meant was the time when we head out together until the time when we are home. The only time to have the connection is via home or the place where free WiFi is available. Nothing else. It looks like I can go out without my phone at all.
Love to observe people
I love to observe people. That had been in me for the longest time ever. What they do, react, talk or behave got me interested.
I happened to witness a commotion of the coffee shop lady boss almost wanted to pick a fight with the officers while I was queuing up for food. If I didn’t continue to see the aftermath, I thought the lady boss is just being difficult to the officials. Apparently, she was trying to explain further in details with her loud voice.
Meanwhile, I also discover another food stall which I never patronise selling one of my favourite food!
If I continue to be like a ‘walker’ (just a joke), I will think the lady boss is a bitch and never know that the food stall selling my yummy food.
Stay connected with our family members
How many of us will stand still observe people without doing anything at all? Perhaps old people who do not intend to have any internet until they are home with WiFi.
No doubt we must stay connected to the internet because of workload and update the social media feed if you are an influencer or etc… But it is good to get disconnected during a weekend and stay connected with our family members and friends.
These are the times where we do not require the internet to get closer to each other.
Truthfully, I feel more comfortable without looking at my mobile regularly. When my mobile data burst, I do not panic but made do what I had missed usually? Of course, the only connection I have is SMS and calling on phone.
Morning does not seem the same
This is an unusual morning. The sky is dark grey, the fog started to draw in and every minute looking out from the window, the visibility is getting shorter and shorter.
The usual routine had changed and you started to get worried.
What happened if you kick on the rock which you had been avoiding it for years?
You know there is a slope along the pathway, but will this fog lead you to death by falling down?
Despite the change of weather and lots of concern in mind, you still have to go out and get the marketing done.
The journey is very long. It will take nearly 30min to get to the marketplace by walking, and 10 min by car.
This is an extremely dangerous situation and you cannot afford to fall off down with the car because of the thick fog.
No one can guarantee
Safety comes first.
In your mind, the choice appears: Either wait for the fog to clear off first, or go forward with it but extremely careful with every step you take.
No one can guarantee the safety except yourself. To risk or not to is in your own hand.
If you are able to see a partial of the route in front with the dim light, it means you have confident to walk forward.
Cross road in life
This type of scenario is just like we having a mid-life crisis. Whether we are going to change a new environment or staying on to be comfortable, no one but yourself knows the answer.
The initial thought in your best answer. (You got to find times to recall that very moment)
There are a lot of cons and pros, balance and benefits that we should look at. But, are these the main reasons?
Eventually, it is still in our mind. Do we love what we are doing?
We often heard people complaining what they are doing, but they do not take an action at all – changing a job or do something they prefer. But they still bite on and carry on with their displeasure.
Instead of seeing them happily, they are constantly grumbling of life.
Our friends will often advise not to go for passion because there are so many negative points.
Passion made us wanted to do more and stay very focused; one of my friend whom I just did the photo shoot told me the same thing.
Without passion, it can’t bring what you are and what you love dearly.
Do not slog through your work for something that you really dislike.
If you are unable to do so, always consider as a hobby that keeps you moving until the day arrive.
I did a PassionTest before and I am glad that I know what I want to do and did not have any regret in my life. All good things wil come later.
There is a will, there is a way
If you do not wish walk through the dark and foggy area, then no one can guide you what to do. Your wish is to be comfortable, so don’t keep having negative thoughts on why you are still in this line and not something you prefer.
If there is a will, there is a way.
By not moving forwards does not mean you are wrong.
In fact, there are neither a right nor wrong decision. The only bad mistake will be regret.
Whatever the choice you had made, do not feel regret.
Instead of having 2nd thoughts or regretted your decision, why not put your full effort and do it better?
Despite numerous failure, one day you will make it.
All you need is support from your loved ones, not the friends who often pull you down.
Image credit: ThePassionTest