It is a lie that we can forgive a person so easily.
It is a lie that we can forget the incident that happened after we forgive.
It is not a lie that someone can forgive and forget.
All of us were young before, love playing a prank on friends and also got into fights so easy.
When someone is injured, we often apologise immediately to prevent further unhappiness, but does the victim feel happy about it?
No, they will not. Who will feel happy after an injury or being hurt?
Forgiving a person
I recalled the day I was being punched in the left face because of my sudden action when my fingernail caused my friend being scratched deeply from his eyebrow till his cheek.
I do not remember how does that incident happen, little tiny memory tells me that I was playing around.
When the painful burning long sensation happened, he cannot take control and punched me in the face 3 times without telling me what’s going on.
Oh man, I still remember how hurtful the punch was. It caused my jaw to be misaligned. I found out only when I attempt to open my mouth bigger.
I hold no grudges because I am the one who cause that incident to happen. And I did apologise after I found out the reason. But he did not forgive as what I have remembered.
A person who is hurt and not willing to accept the forgiveness is understandable.
It takes a lot of courage for a person to forgive the person who started it.
This is just a simply small incident. What about those met the life and death situation?
I remembered reading a newspaper that the victim family willing forgive driver because fault does not lie with him. And there is nothing they can do to bring their son back alive.
It totally stunned me.
This family heart is magnificent.
They can think further what we normally do. Rather than living with despair, why not live happily?
We just want peace in life.
We do not teach people to forgive because it will be an act against their wish and in order to do that, you have to see through the life and open up your heart.
If you are naturally a good-hearted person, it will not be difficult, unless you have gone through years of changing about your thought, e.g. studying of religious or mediation.
Whether it is easy or difficult to achieve, it all depend on yourself.
Just as I told my daughter previously, saying sorry is so easy. But, one of the most difficult word to say it out is “I forgive you”