What does this music video tell us on our action? Do you feel any regret?
Although the music sounded very nice (they have a beautiful voice as well), it also tells us the aftermath result according to our rash action.
Nobody, including you and me, would like to receive a very bad response after what we have done.
Have we ever thought of slowing down first before taking things into action?
This is all because we feel very angry at that time and there is an urge to get back by punishing the person first! You feel great by doing that because this is how you want things to happen. You do not care about other people feeling as well.
Why must we not make a decision during quarrel?
We know that quarrel is bad because we love to use beautiful languages against each other.
Family, friends or own spouse, when you start the fire, be prepared that the fire will escalate like a fire ball.
Be careful what you said during the fight because the other party will take it very seriously.
This is one of the reason why you are single, all because you do not know when to stop!
After you had said your piece, you realised that there are words that cannot be used at all.
Yes, pop a champagne, you just got yourself into trouble.
Count yourself lucky if you can save the relationship, if not, go make yourself tired in the gym and have a good night sleep.
More you argue, more regrets you may have later.
This type of scenario is so easy to be found on TV drama when either one of the party is quarrelling!
It is so embarrassing when you realised that both of you are quarrelling over a small matter that can be resolved! Do you need to fire up more?
Learn to cool your mind
C’mom, know your limitation during a fight.
Either you stop right now, or regret later.
If it is a situation that cannot be resolved, then that’s it!
Walk off with style! You do not need to create a ho-ho drama for everyone to see, then the next moment, both of you are so famous over the internet!
Do not let bad temper overcome you because you may not be able to control yourself.
Stay quiet and take a deep breath.
Explain the situation rather than using a loud tone that may lead to misunderstanding.
Do not say what you mean. This is one of the worst disaster ever!
Happy is positive
Now you see, things can be solved easily and the day can be happier if you choose to react slowly and do not get jumpy.
Do not let the day end with fight and quarrel, because this is unnecessary.
What we want is a joyful day to start with and also to end too.
Everyone going home happy and always looking forward to going out together.
Smile more and everything will be great. If you are a person that like to be grumpy and angry, you will be alone and feel regret that why you want to show attitude to anyone who tried to approach you.
A Happy person is attractive, they are much positive and always peaceful.
Putting on your clothing and started smiling in the mirror. The reflection is saying that you look great!
Walking to the dining table, intend to sip a cup of coffee.
You coughed. And you spill your coffee on your favourite shirt!
The coffee stain is big and it is impossible to clean it off now.
You started mumbling:” What a day! I started feeling bad luck!”
When the bad luck happens
Your mood changed. You felt that bad luck will come to you very soon.
The happy and glowing face had turned into a thunderstorm.
You frowned, started cursing and swearing over a coffee spill that you did not want that to happen.
Hence, you decided to change another shirt that does not look good enough. It was not ironed properly. Totally the heck care attitude.
Time is running out and you have an important meeting to attend to.
You have just activated the blaming mode.
Will that go to be a bad day for you, or you wanted to carry on your smiley day?
Change your attitude
You cannot accept what had just happened.
You have a meeting to attend to and you felt embarrassed that your shirt might not look good enough to present.
This does not go anywhere.
The attitude of yours change suddenly and you seem hostile towards to anyone who tries to talk to you.
It is at the point of time people started to take a few steps away from you because they do not want to be influenced by you.
Your colleague will still carry on their daily routine and stay positive. It is bad to have your negative energy spread to others.
If this goes on for days, colleagues will be wary fo you. It is as if you are a walking time bomb.
As they do not want to see you blown off suddenly, they rather stay far away from you and remain as a just colleague and nothing more.
There will be no close colleague in the office whom you can share your feeling.
If you keep thinking of all the bad luck will come, then all of them will come to you.
Looking at the bigger picture is comfortable
There are people who look at the scenario as it is.
It is as if you are holding a crop factor camera with a nice 24mm lens. You cannot enjoy the wide photo as you desired.
However, if you are willing to take a step back, you will get almost the same wide angle like a full frame camera.
It is all about willingly to make an effort so that you are able to see the bigger picture.
Like the scenario, I had just written.
Despite the coffee spilt on the shirt, you like best, you may not know that the other shirt might look even better on you.
Also, the client might not notice your shirt at all. What they need is your presentation, not your shirt. You are not a model that walk on the runway.
If you continue to put on your smiley face, the chances of client love your presentation is very high.
Even if there is an amendment to be made, they will talk to you properly instead of slamming on the table and ask you to get out.
So, stop saying you have bad luck and start learning how to stop saying bad luck.
Thunderstorm is not forever
With the positive energy generating from you, you will get lots of encouragement, liking and trust from everyone.
Tell yourself something.
Do you want to see a person who has a sulking face and not willing to talk to you or prefer a person who is smiling non-stop and cracking jokes?
Although something has changed, it does not means the day has to be bad.
Thunderstorm will pass over very soon.
The bright sunny day will appear.
It is time to think again and refocus what you just missed.
You will not be surrounded by bad luck forever.
Only by thinking positive, then all the negative energy will disperse in the air.
The more you think about the bad luck, the more you will have. So you have to learn to stop saying bad luck unless you really wanted to attract that.
Attract happy people
If you had a rough morning, it is not important that you must stay firm and be cheerful.
There is no point sulking over a small matter that can be resolved in a few minute.
Even if you want to rant, well, c’mom, we are all human and we do feel good to rant once a while. Do not let your anger continue for more than 2hrs if you want a happy day ahead.
We must attract happy people together, so that all of us will have a good day ahead.
Tell the bad luck to move off, because it is none of their business to be beside you.
You will be rewarded with patience because it is a big test for everyone.
But there is no definite answer when the future will come.
Some may be short term, while some have to wait for a long time.
To rush thing off isn’t a bad thing as well.
You have to be selective while rushing; going for an appointment, punctual in school or work etc, you must rush yourself as not to give a bad impression of yourself.
Hard paid off if you spend your time wisely.
If you rush your artwork, instead of getting the art to look complete, it might end up looking incomplete, fuzzy and messy. There is no feeling at all.
Art appreciator will walk away because of the negative feeling. Do you want to have an art piece that looks so busy at home?
Music composer often takes their times to write a beautiful melodic tune that everyone will feel comfortable and relax.
Every instrument adds into the music has its role to build up the tune.
If a composer does not care much about this details by rushing off to finish up the piece might turn out to be a trash instead.
The simplest the better.
Do not rush to complete the music, take your time to listen to make sure it sound good.
With lots of patience, you will be rewarded
But how?
You must be disciplined.
If you want to shack off your weight, you have to train yourself daily and eat lesser than the usual you.
By making research via online, you see the common keywords for you to start off is “cut down carbo”.
Being Asian, we love rice because we can pour our gravy on it and eat it like no tomorrow.
But there is risk for our health without knowing.
It is Sugar.
Regular meal is a must. Just try to cut down food intake bits by bits.
You must replace your rice if you are so in love with it.
And you not forget to exercise and drink lots of plain water.
While you are cutting down food intake, you must burn what is inside you.
Keep this discipline method, you will be healthier, cheerful and grateful that you can start wearing your clothing.
If you want to rush off to diet by taking supplementary, you are just over relying on pills.
That might make you continue to eat more as your brain send a wrong signal “Hey, I have supplement to burn your fats off. Just continue eating”
One day, you will find out that you will be putting on more weights after stopping the high costing pills.
Will it better if you start exercising that does not cost you a single cents?
We have YouTube video teaching you what exercise to do to lose weight.
You put in a lot of effort and stay disciplined on your routine.
Despite the turbulence, you gradually reaching your goal day by day.
This is the test we must all go through.
If you do not have the will power, you will failed the test, unless you are very focus and wanted to try it again.
“Clean up the whole blog and restart, or you continue”
I had been waiting and thinking, thus the missing in action here.
I had decided with a smile on my face now.
Having no shame, I decided to keep it despite some of the content may not be suitable for everyone to read.
How many restarts do we have in life?
We can restart a game after dying many times, we can restart building our new life and move forward, but the pain and experience in our heart always remain the same.
Hence the reason I decided to continue this blog.
If there is time to make a change, we should do it before is running out.
Time passes very fast. It will not pause for you to make a change. Life still goes on despite how sad you are.
Everyone has to go through it.
Why does everyone say health is wealth?
It is not hard to think about it if you see the bigger view.
When a person health is going down hill, you will not get to enjoy it despite how rich you are.
With all the medicine pouring on you, you are drawn with all medical bills unknowingly and payment is painful.
Exercising make us look good and stay happy because you know that your fitness is getting a lot better than before.
Not only that, we are eliminating most of the illness by keeping healthy.
Keep smiling and we will be good and keep away from sickness.
Isn’t that health is wealth? We get to enjoy our life, remember that!
Complain all we want when we find out that our health is going down because we are lack of discipline.
Regret all we want. There is no way we can get back our health to the original stage.
We cannot restart it by moving our date back.
Instead, we have to move forward and deal with it.
Restarting is not a bad choice because this came from experience.
If there is a way to save it, use it wisely.
The alternative choice will be “Looking ahead”.
We can look back and learn from our mistake and not commit again.
We must not brood over it and stay negative as long as we want. This is bad for us.
We cannot live without food because we need the energy to push ourselves forward. Like many of you, I love to eat food that is fried, sweet, baked steam, etc. Frankly speaking, I cannot resist food that I like a lot, of course, I do have some self-control.
Asian food is delicious. Anything that is spicy will make me lost my self-control by having 2 servicing of rice! Curry chicken and tom yum are one of the best in my menu.
Knowing that I am putting on weight, I should refrain from eating too much for supper. I always have a sara-lee cake with milk, cereal milk or even chocolate rice cake while watching my TV show at night.
I have my limitation so I will gulp down a lot of water after this sinful and yummy food. Sugar is nice but also a killer. Best yet, I seldom exercise, so I continue to eat as if I am starving for days.
No self-discipline and lots of execuses
I have no self-discipline when I wanted to exercise to lose weight. I find so hard to get the time to go out to jog, cycling or even swimming. I just sit in front of the computer looking at my music production and my forex chart. I did T25 intensive circuit training or jogging and swimming. I have excuses – once I have an injury or find hard to find the time, I will just stop there and do not do anything.
One of my friends introduced me T25 because it is meant for weight losing and train your cardio. It is a very high intensive workout that helps you to shag off your weight. I did for a month and saw the result! I did slim down and my leg is much stronger than before.
As the training is pretty tough on my leg, I have to stop to rest so that I can recuperate my injury. That goes on for a week and I cannot catch up the rest of the training that last for 2 months. From then on, I stopped. That is one of the excuses.
During my training, I did watch my diet as well and I am really happy. But, after I stopped the training, I almost went back to my glutton stage. And later on, it just goes worst. I was 103kg.
Every food that should not be wasted has gone in my tummy. I began to feel lethargic and felt very sleepy after my 3 in 1 coffee intake.
That was a year ago.
Things do not change, my eating habit goes haywire with no discipline at all.
I am getting lazier and exercise is just in my mind instead.
Something changed
I feel very tired and often having giddiness. I know that my body is doing some change and I begins to accept it because I know what is going on.
After seeing the doctor at my worst condition, I still do not feel any better until I gotten my blood test result after a week later.
I was diagnosed as type 2 diabetic.
I know this day will come because of my eating habit. I literally ignored the sign last year when it was not so bad. With high sugar contained, it is normal that you feel sleepy after taking a cup of 3 in 1 coffee.
Since the day I was diagnosed, I tend to be very careful of my diet and watch out for those sugar intake.
In short, we have to take in carbo, but with strict amount of intake. Just walk away with those sugary drink.
If you are a 100 plus or any isotonic drink lover like me before, do avoid it when you are not exercising. This is one of the highest sugar contained!
Brand new diet start now
It is not the end when I realised that I have to change my diet. It is good, trust me.
I always love how people eat healthily but cannot stand that small amount or those vegetables (salad) because I will never feel full! Now I totally can relate to that.
Eating healthy is costly. So choose the meal carefully as not to let your wallet explode.
Apart from eating healthily, it is very important to get yourself into exercising! There is NO excuses anymore. Say now and not LATER.
If you did a web research, there are lots of healthy western food, what about asian food? What is the ok and not?
Fortunately, my wife managed to find out this website which might be able to help most of you out there.
Do you believe that stress is one of the hidden killers?
When a person is a stress, there are a lot of things that may start to happen. Our lifestyle, interaction and health will be affected.
Therefore, you have to keep yourself motivated by doing things that you like and keep the stress away from you as far as possible.
While this may seem difficult, it is better to learn how to do it in a proper way.
We cannot avoid stress because of how the world evolve. Work stress is one of the killers because you are fighting the fire every day in order to get promoted with better pay.
Even when you get promoted, you are faced with lots of challenge because the higher you go, the more pressure you will face. Unless you are the biggest boss who hires all the intelligent to work things out for you.
There is no free lunch in this world. You just dig in more and more.
You are unknowingly getting health issue if you do not start to take care of yourself.
Pressure tension
Every family has their own difficulties – health and financial and also dealing with in-laws etc.
The pressure you faced at work is more than enough to get you a headache, but you get tensed out when family members are giving lots of unnecessary problems.
There is a countless problem that a person can share.
No matter how tough the life is, we have to motivate ourselves to move forward.
Everyone is tired when they reach their peak limit. They can no longer hold on and feel like scolding everyone else. It is just like a sergeant major going around pin point your mistake.
No matter how well you are doing, you will never get a compliment at all. Scolding is the only thing you receive.
Things will go on and on without ending if a person is feeling too stress.
Wild imagination flocking in their brain and thought that the world is literally against them.
Give a helping hand
If you notice anyone if facing that. It is important to guide he or her to relax their mind before something real hurt is going to happen.
It may take a long time for a person to listen to you, so umpteen tries is a must.
If they are willing to listen, it is important to engage them for 30min to an hour away from everything and relax.
By relaxing, it is not about sleeping it through, it is relaxing our mind to feel comfortable.
4 better ways to ease your stress
Meditation works effectively if you can calm your inner soul. Think of nothing and keep your mind blank for 15min at the start. Set a soft alarm to keep track of time. If you cannot keep it blank, think of a beautiful sunset by the tree.
Yoga almost the same as mediation because of staying calm and relaxation. You can stretch all your tired muscle and keep your focus by balancing yourself. Relaxing music will help during your yoga exercise.
Walk on the beach. If you listen to new age music or any soothing music before, you will notice the sound of waves, raindrop and soft waterfall. These sound are proven to help you ease the tension in your mind. You can find them on Youtube or even relax on the beach listening to it. It is great to have sea breeze as well.
Essential Oil. The fragrance of essential oil helps you to feel relax. You can use it as above mentioned. It can be applied anytime of the day. A good essential oil will help to bring benefit for your body. So it is important not to choose cheap or synthetic oil.
We must learn to feel relax and let go of our tension to avoid any harm to our health. Some might be life threatening if we do not take care well.
Eating healthy but with overloaded of stress might cause you to have other problem too. Our mind is one of the most powerful elements in our body. If it cannot overcome the amount of stress you have now, it will be defeated badly. One led to another.
It is not a fun thing feeling so the stress of work daily. Nobody like it. It is you to pick a choice by moving on. Resign and move to another sector that might bring you happiness. Remember, money does not buy happiness.
You have to motivate yourself to stand up and choose the path of happiness.
“Of course she is rich and she can do anything she want”
“Easy saying… doing is so hard!!!”
“I wish she gone through the shit we are in as well”
Well, we cannot deny the fact most of the people are very jealous of the 28-year-old lady.
As written in the article, she has investment and also saved up quite a big percentage because she wants to pursue her dream since school day.
It is not wrong to follow your dream.
Get used item isn’t a bad idea
If you have strong discipline, you might be in the same shoe as her.
Let’s not compare how much you and she are earning per year, but how to learn to save and not to buy impulsively.
I cannot deny the fact that we can be materialistic because we really love the first-hand item but I was taken back when there are quite a number of people does not mind 2nd hand items after I had open my Carousell account.
Having 2nd hand stuff is not a bad thing so long as it is still good in condition. You will save a lot more and might be thrilled when the items are near new! Bang for big buck, why not? It is a gem!
If there is a need to buy a new thing, you just have to.
The more you earn, the more you spend
This saying is pretty true.
Earn more, spend more.
Browsing over your Facebook page, you started to notice some of your high earning power friends starting to splurge on luxurious goods, cars, watch, high-class restaurant etc.. This is good for building the economy but one must watch out how they spend.
No matter how much you are earning, it is very important you save up for rainy days and stay humble how you intend to share in your social feed.
We have friends who love luxury items because they feel that they wanted to own it after their years of hard work. It is the sense of belonging when they got it in their arms.
After a few months, this sense of belonging is no longer getting noticed. It is nice to own one, but you have balance the feeling – do you want it or need it?
Worth of your work hourly
I love how Livingston gave an example of buying an iPhone.
Let’s say your cost-per-hour comes out to $20. That means a new $700 iPhone would shake out to 35 hours worth of work. A $100 night out would cost five ours. A $40 blouse would run you two hours worth of work. Ask yourself: Is the purchase worth it?
Unless it is something you really need it, then I would think that I will skip this.
For example, you have your blouse torn and beyond sew, or your phone went dead and you need to contact your client.
While for some, they will just want chase over new technology or fashion – phone, gaming rig, cars, jewellery etc. Just for the sake of being the first and own it, then chuck them one side after feeling bored.
It is a good practice to save and not overspend.
If you have the extra money, always keep a lookout for investment to grow your account. Everyone love that!
Do your homework before you get yourself burnt by the market or conman out there.
A thunderstorm is coming, heavy dark cloud above us was moving fast. The shape of the cloud was twirling as if it is going to form a twister.
Strong gust of wind were making the tree branches flying up and down as if they were dancing vigorously.
Leaves on floor were flying all around.
The wind might even help us change our hairstyle while walking on street.
The sky is turning darker than before and all the cars have to turn on their headlight to see what is in front of them to prevent any accident.
Rain droplets started to fall down bit by bits. The drop seem heavy and big as they are falling very fast. The sound of the rain hitting everywhere – building, cars, windows and even our skin.
Within few minutes, these few droplets had turned into an army and wash you down if you are still looking for shelter.
The dry road started to fill with puddles of water. Everyone start running with the sound of clapping, vehicles passing by the water splash onto the pavement.
Mood of the person
If a person is in bad mood, this is definitely a gloomy weather.
When the person is a relaxing mode, they will enjoy themselves by hiding themselves at home and rest, watching a movie and doing something they like in the shelter.
If you are a positive type of person, this will means that the road had been washed clean for you to continue the journey ahead.
No one like to go out with their clothes been wet. But sometime we have to brace through the storm to get on to our journey.
A gloomy stormy weather does not tell you to stop what you are doing. It is telling you to hold on for a while before deciding you wanted to go ahead despite the wet weather.
There will be sunshine after the rain. Road will start to dry up and everyone will come out from the shelter and start walking, cycling or even jogging on street.
The storm will not go on forever.
No matter how tough you have to go through, there will be sunshine afterwards.
It may not be now, but it will come eventually if you hold on to your positive thought.
Negative thought, negative thinking
Being negative will not get you far because whatever you said will be useless. Nothing will help unless you change your mind set.
There are people willing to come out from the dark because they finally see through it in their life. They want to be better than before. Not hiding in the shadow and blame on every single things.
Happiness will not drop from sky unless you keep smiling to everyone.
Whenever I see storm is coming, it always remind me of cooling wet weather that made me feel comfortable and then sunshine will shine on us to be better.
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